Why women have affairs?
Talk about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on since old ages. Affairs can be filled with troubles, cause despair, and other troubles. Plus you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness issue, finances, age dissimilarity, faith upbringing, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating married woman.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking affairs. I am sure typically though it is just the human nature, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people can turn the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos culture has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your spouse or anyone else? You will need to reduce the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, huge in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to look after. Your money are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, usually the husband is sexually neglecting his wife for a tones of reasons. As a man I really am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is gone, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just grown separately, our general concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.